Give those smiling muscles a good workout

Want an exercise that will help you feel better right away?

Smile 50 times a day, every day.

Even if you don’t let anyone see you smile, smile anyway.

Without fail, 50 times a day.

Better yet?

Share your 50 smiles.

Give them away.

50 smiles.

Every day.

Think I’m kidding?

Just try it.

50 smiles a day.

It’s light-giving exercise that elevates you, and is a gift for the people you face.

Give those smiling muscles a workout, at least 50 times a day.

What are you waiting for?

Start now.

Smile 1, smile 2, smile 3…

Soon you’ll feel what I mean.

Just a moment’s pause…to window shop


Momentary window shopping
Originally uploaded by jcgr

I was amused at this quick moment on a trip last fall to New York City.

A couple of policewomen couldn’t help but to glance for a moment at shoes on their rounds of the city.

After all, beautiful shoes are beautiful shoes, no matter who you are, or what job you walk.

It was a flying through life Monday here…how was yours?

It was a rare Monday in my world.

I felt like I was flying through the day, in the good way.

And I was almost afraid to look too closely at how quickly the “to-do” list was turning rapidly into the “it’s done!” list.

You know how it goes. There’s that quiet little fear that if you look too closely, good luck, under close inspection, will fly away.

Yes, it was one of those kinds of days.

Not until about 3:10 pm did I hit the first pothole in the day’s progress and plans.

And then that pothole was a bit of a doozy, but I got back on track again.

At some point before Monday ends, I’ll take a moment or two to try to figure out if there’s something specific I did to make (or let?) this day work out as well as it did.

Maybe it was that moment or two last night when I couldn’t get to sleep. I purposely shifted from worrying about a few things to thinking about things that make me smile.

Yes, that may have been it.

All I know is that I’m going to do my best to make it a flying-through-life-in-the-good-way Tuesday next.

Here’s to a great Tuesday in your world, too!

Rainy day view


Rainy day view from SFMOMA
Originally uploaded by jcgr

We react and adapt when we must.

And when faced with a gray day, a bright, cheerful umbrella can go a long way to chase the blue and gray away.

What’s your best defense against an otherwise dreary day?

Need to laugh? Recall now-funny mistakes you recovered well from

Are there times when, overwhelmed by the weight of world news, you need a moment of lightness or levity?

If so, and if you can laugh at yourself, just think of some of the biggest embarrassments or mistakes you recovered well from.

As long as no one was hurt, mistakes and foibles that may have been horrifying when they occurred can be quite funny at some distant date.

Do you need some inspiration to get started?

If so, here are three stories from my “Embarrassments I Survived” Tour:

WOOPS ONE

I was in the first month of my first job after college one bright June day.

Nervous about the first weeklong training I was there to do for a class full of elementary teachers, after the warm up and greeting, I reached up to pull down a projection screen.

Suddenly, it crashed to the floor.

Somehow, I had pulled it off the wall.

The class and I were both stunned. Speaking for myself, I was:

a) amazed that it was even possible for me to pull a projection screen off a wall,

b) wondering what to do next about that screen suddenly on the floor, and

c) embarrassed to have done this in front of a room full of people I’d be teaching for the rest of the week.

I collected myself, then joked, “It seems I have much greater strength than I knew!”

They laughed. We relaxed.

Then we adapted, projecting the slides on the wall for the remainder of that day.

WOOPS TWO

I once spent, oh, an hour or so with mascara running down my face in rivulets on the sidelines of a high-attendance Big 8 conference college football game.

It was during a time early in my career when I was a freelance sports photographer on the weekends. This was a high precipitation day with the temperature teetering right on the edge of freezing, snowflakes turning to rain almost as soon as they fell.

At some point in the second half, I climbed the many steps of the stadium to the restroom, facing hundreds of fans as I climbed, step by step. Many of them were, strangely, staring at me.

Once in the restroom, out of habit, I took a cursory glance at myself in the mirror, expecting to verify that nothing was out of place.

This time, though, I suddenly saw a Halloween mask-like face staring back at me. Black streaks were running from the bottom of my eyes down past my chin.

It was a bit like the famous Edvard Munch painting, “The Scream.”

Horrified, I finally understood why so many people had been looking at me strangely as I climbed the many, many stadium steps.

All I could do at that point was to – once again in life – laugh at myself.

I paused for a moment to collect myself, cleaned up my face, and headed back to the sidelines.

WOOPS THREE

An error appeared in the title of the lead article of a scientific journal for which I was the brand new assistant editor.

That’s not the worst of it.

The erroneous word was “menstrual.”

And that embarrassing error went ALL around the world because this was the top scientific journal in its field.

I discovered the error in the first few minutes of the first morning back to work after my honeymoon.

And while the error ultimately escaped correction, it had not escaped detection in the rounds of printer’s proofs. I’d caught it before the magazine was printed, and called it to the printer’s attention. But he had apparently not taken me all that seriously.

We both learned.

The correct word, by the way, was “menstrua.”

And while that word, from my perspective, was an unfortunate and risky word choice on the part of the authors, it was scientifically correct in the way it was being used in the title.

“Menstrual” was not.

So back to work on that first day home from the honeymoon, I took one look at the fresh issue of the scientific journal for which I was responsible for successful production and distribution and was, naturally, horrified.

What did I do next?

Well, thankfully, my new manager was on vacation and didn’t catch the embarrassing error before I did.

I started by calling the authors of the article to apologize and assure them we would print a correction.

Then I called the scientific editor of the journal, a world-renowned expert in the field who was a professor at the University of Wisconsin.

He laughed in the midst of the dilemma because he, too, had thought “menstrua” was a risky word choice, and he could see I was doing my best to clean up the mess I had not caused.

And then I called printer.

I let him know that I’d meant what I’d said when I’d said, “Here are the corrections. MAKE SURE you catch this one…the erroneous “L” on the lead title.”

It was ultimately probably a blessing in disguise, for while my predecessor in that job had apparently been fairly casual about the journal, the printer realized quickly that on my watch, we would be working to high standards. And we would expect to, and would work hard to get it right.

He realized that, like Horton in “Horton Hatches the Egg,” I meant what I said, and I said what I meant, and we would get along fine as long as he understood that.

Oh, and by the way, I took friendly hassling from the scientific editor in Madison, WI for the rest of the time that we worked together.

He thought the whole circumstance was ultimately VERY funny because he could see that I took my new job seriously and would do what I could to protect the results of his hard work as the editor of this world-renowned journal.

Well, there are more embarrassments and mistakes I’ve made that I could share, but I’ll leave it at that.

The point, of course, is that the humility and, ultimately, the humor that these experiences bring every time I recall them is always a good and refreshing thing.

What about you?

What are your “Embarrassments I Survived” stories?

And what did they ultimately help you learn or do?

Whatever they are, always remember that last part…you survived them!

A sign of hope


A bit of cheer
Originally uploaded by jcgr

A spot of color.

A break in the drab.

A sign of hope that winter is, indeed, about to end.

The way there doesn’t always follow a straight line


Mini Forest
Originally uploaded by Matt-Richards

Each path to a destination gets you there, sometimes in its own way and time.

And most journeys provide a few twists and turns along the way, of some kind.

As you think back over your life, which journeys have been your most interesting ones: the straight paths or the slightly less predictable kind?

And which journeys have been most valuable in your life: the straight-ahead-paths or the slightly meandering kind?

The power of acceptance (and give a little to yourself)

Acceptance.

I’ve thought about this many times as I worked my way toward some high goal I’d set for myself, or tried to move beyond a difficult life circumstance.

Acceptance is commonly-offered advice for anyone going through challenging times, or great change of any type.

I think of a friend whose husband is helping his mother close down her home and prepare to move to a retirement community. I think of managers who are frustrated by their employees, employees frustrated by their managers. I think of people trying to lose weight, or to do other things to improve their health.

Advising that someone accept a circumstance is easy to say.

But it’s much, much harder to do.

Think about each of these situations for a moment. Consider what it takes to fully DO:

1. Accept yourself, completely.

This means fully acknowledging all your strengths and weaknesses, achievements and mistakes, opportunities you took and the ones you missed or chose not to take.

This means accepting the wholeness of you, just as you are, right now.

2. Accept someone else, completely.

This means fully acknowledging someone else, including their strengths and weaknesses, just as they are, right now.

It means accepting whatever relationship and history exists between the two of you.

3. Accept a situation completely, just as it is, right now.

This means acknowledging a situation fully, whatever it is, just as it is, now.

This may mean accepting the hard work, and the odds that you face as you decide to pursue a goal.

It may mean accepting the resources you need to gather, or the learning and personal change you need to do.

It could mean acknowledging a present situation that’s far worse than what you once imagined, or hoped

What’s the real power in acceptance?

Often you can’t release burdens unless you acknowledge that they exist. You can’t muster the energy and effort to get moving to become what you really wish, or create the situation you really want, to be unless you acknowledge that you’re somewhere else.

Energy that’s invested in pretending, “Everything’s fine!” can’t be released and invested in really making it so.

Take a deep breath.

Accept.

Be with, and let be, what is.

Then, when you’re ready, let go.

Move beyond what is.

And then, make things different, and better.

And accept again at each step, as things change and move forward.

The challenge often isn’t in the doing.

The challenge is in accepting what is fully enough to be able to really, and finally, let it go.

On the way


On the way
Originally uploaded by jcgr

Perhaps this serendipitous picture reminds you of your average work day:

Flying along, the day barely underway.

And since that’s just the beginning, the rest flies along at an even faster pace.

If this looks and sounds familiar, don’t forget to pause now and then to take a deep breath.

Find your calm center.

It’s there, and it can help guide you through the busy-ness of a rapid-cycle day.

How to make the milestone of the New Year work for you

At the end of the year, it’s common to feel many things.

These may be just some of the things that you notice when you pause and reflect:

- A sense of accomplishment at the things you’ve achieved

- A bit of regret at goals not met yet

- Excitement about the fresh year just ahead

I was thinking the other day about the finish line of a year, and how to make the most of the end point it represents.

Suddenly, I realized with a smile that the reason I love New Year’s is the starting line it creates, instead.

What does the New Year’s milestone represent to you?

1. A finish line

If New Year’s represents primarily endings to you, consider these things as you look back:

- How are you different now from what you were like a year ago?

- What are you happiest about with the way the year worked out for you?

- What do you wish you could change, or had done differently?

- Are there things you learned to accept, forgive or forget this year?

2. A starting line

If your focus at New Year’s is on new beginnings, and the fresh possibilities of a brand new year, consider these things as you look ahead:

- What’s one change you’d like to make in 2011?

- What would you like to learn this year? How can you do that most easily?

- In what ways would you like to challenge or test yourself in positive ways this year?

3. Both endings and beginnings

If you see both sides of the milestone – the finish line for one year, the starting line for a new one – consider these things as you prepare to move forward well:

- Are there expectations it would be helpful for you to let go of?

- Are there habits you would like to eliminate? How about habits you’d like to create?

- Are there dreams you’d like to give a test drive this year with even a single, simple first step?

However you see the milestone of the New Year, consider how you want to feel about yourself, your work and life at the end of 2011.

Let that felt sense of “you in a year” guide decisions about how you spend time, money, energy and attention throughout 2011.

And let this one be your best year yet.