Musings and perusings on life and fame

It's hard not to think about the power and price of fame with the loss in recent days of a few American entertainment greats.

First, it was Ed McMahon, Johnny Carson's steady supporter, his long-time right hand man. Then Farrah Fawcett, a woman more intelligent and deeper than her first roles might have shown. And Michael Jackson, an entertainment game changer, and for a while, an industry of his own.

Each benefited mightily from the bright lights they sought and attracted. Money. Power. Many choices.

Or so it seems, looking from the outside in.

Each probably – also – paid a higher price than we would ever guess. Who knows?

Perhaps at some point the lights became blinding, the role they were effectively assigned by their great fame became stifling, confining.

Whatever their experience, as we note the end of their bright light lives, it gives us a moment to take a good look, privately, at our own.

Here's a bit of advice others offer, along those lines:

Have old memories and young hopes.
A. Houssaye

There is no medicine like hope, no incentive so great, and no tonic so powerful as expectation of something tomorrow.
O. S. Marsden

We lie loudest when we lie to ourselves.
Eric Hoffer

People become lonely when they build walls instead of bridges.
Unknown

What you think of yourself is much more important than what others think of you.
Seneca

What to say when a friend says, “I think I’ll become a consultant. What do you think?”

If you've been a consultant for any length of time, your work life may look desirable to others, for a variety of reasons.

And if so, you've probably been asked this question by at least a few colleagues, friends, family members, at some point:

“Should I become a consultant?”

With current economic uncertainty, the odds are you'll hear the question again.

Many people who find themselves out from under the umbrella of the
corporate environment for the first time think that consulting is an
easy business to begin, manage and grow.

You know, and I know, though, that's far from the case. It is a
business, and it requires the same care, attention, and thoughtful
management as any of our clients' businesses do.

Below, here's a summary of what a few of my fellow consultants in a
Bay Area-based professional association, Women in Consulting (WIC),
advised when asked the question, "Should I become a consultant?"

Hopefully these ideas will help you, too, when you have to field
requests for “I think I'll go into consulting…what do you think?”
advice:

The consulting life is a good work life, in many ways.
Satisfactions include helping people solve problems that may seem
overwhelming to them. It's also very satisfying helping them achieve
business results much greater than they initially thought were
possible. The dissatisfactions? Well, they include not seeing how
things play out, once you've made your recommendations and handed the
project off.

The benefits are clear, but what may not be so readily apparent
is that being a consultant takes a LOT of work behind the scenes.

As a consultant, unless you are employed by a larger firm, you are a
small business owner and entrepreneur. The service you are selling is
some combination of expertise and advice, a strategy, action plan,
implementation guidance, problem-solving and specific deliverables as
well as your personal style in delivering your solutions.

One needs to devote a lot of time – consistently – to business development to make the business a success.
The most successful consultants make it look effortless, but they're
always marketing, in some way. Experienced consultants advise that 20%
of one's time needs to be spent each week on developing new business
with new clients. This is very important for continuing to be
successful through changes in the economy, such as we're seeing now.

Running the business, and growing the business is satisfying, if you are an entrepreneur at heart.
But a lot of people don't like that part of consulting. And more don't
realize how much a part of this work life that is. In addition, we're
often in the position of re-inventing our businesses based on changes
in our interests and in the marketplace. That means “re-starting,” in
some fashion, throughout the life of the business.

Another key part of starting, running, and growing your business
is the infrastructure aspect. You are responsible for every part of the
business.
As a small business owner, you don't have a
corporate IT support desk to call for help, nor do you have an accounts
payable or receivables person to issue your checks or follow up when
receipts don't come in on time. Some of us enjoy doing these activities
ourselves while other consultants build a right-sized infrastructure
for their businesses or employ virtual assistants to do these things.
These are choices we all need to make about how to sustain the business
around us while doing the work we are most passionate about.

To test your entrepreneurial interest before going very far down the consultant path, study a few issues of Inc. magazine, Fortune Small Business, or Fast Company.
All of these magazines address the small business management life quite
well, as do a number of websites. If the problems small business owners
are solving don't interest you, it is a clear sign you may be missing
the entrepreneurial DNA that's an important part of consulting success.

If you pass the “Am I really an entrepreneur?” test, select a few
consultants who do what you want to do in the business segment you like
and approach them for informational interviews.

To prepare for your research,
think through the types of problems you could solve for a client, the
types of organizations you like working with best, the types of people
you enjoy working with, and the problems you have solved successfully
in the past for some organization. Are they marketing problems?
Management problems? Business process problems? Sales? Project
management? Fund-raising? Infrastructure or systems?

As a consultant, you are concentrating your business and marketing
efforts in one area or another, not all possible avenues of consulting.
You have to make it easy for your right clients to find you. You have
to be clear about who you are, and what you do that can make their
organizations or individual work lives more successful, in some way.

So, to recap:

Do you like the entrepreneurial life? If you don't have a
pretty good sense of that yet, start your research there. Start with
“Inc.”, Fortune “Small Business,” and “Fast Company” magazines, along
with small business-focused websites.

What problems can you solve well? Cite some specific examples
you could use to illustrate your problem-solving history you do your
informational interviews with a few specific people in your desired
field.

Who needs those particular problems solved? As a first fast
pass of research into your market, search Monster.com or any of the
major jobhunting sites with a few key words to see who is hiring for
those types of skills. This gives you a sense of the best markets for
your services, either as an employee or as a consultant. Consider using
a research tool such as a Hoover's subscription or other business
service.

Along the way, of course, you may find you'd really rather be an employee.
If, as is sometimes the case, you find a job you really want while
you're researching the market for companies who might use you as a
consultant, you may find the perfect job for you to take. Pursuing one
direction – consulting research – can lead to fulltime opportunities
you might otherwise have missed or roles that you didn't know existed
in the corporate world. For example, maybe you've started a career in
marketing and are researching consulting there, and it leads you to an
opportunity you really want in a larger organization in corporate
social responsibility.

However you resolve your curiosity or drive toward consulting, take
the first steps by taking a research spin. It'll clear up a lot of
questions before you decide whether to move further down the consulting
career path.

What if the Person Who Asks About Consulting is a Fresh College Grad?

I recently fielded the question to WIC, “I'm a new college graduate
and I'm thinking of going into consulting. What would you advise?” I
sent the question to the WIC Community list and these are the themes in
advice sent by about 20 WIC consultants:

1. Figure out what work you're truly passionate about, and competent
at. You need to have a core competency which will drive your consulting
practice.
2. Get experience, mentoring, and contacts in that field.
3.
It's hard to consult if you've never done the thing you want to consult
on. Most people in consulting have expertise developed by working a
while in that field for someone else.
4. Few consulting firms hire new BS grads.
5.
Large firms generally hire MBAs – bear in mind that those roles
typically require 100% travel. Most people find that pattern
sustainable for no more than 5 years.
6. Smaller regional firms
may have opportunities for people with new bachelor's degrees, but
those positions are typically filled through college recruiting cycles
in the fall and winter.
7. Hold off on diving into consulting for
a few years. As a consultant you lose the opportunity to learn and
collaborate with peers from your company or department or company.
8.
Mentoring is tremendously important, especially early in your career.
Take advantage of every opportunity to be mentored, especially in the
early years of a career when you're learning so much.

Lessons from the world of entrepreneurship

Many people are thinking about starting their own businesses during challenging, yet creative times like these.

I've been an entrepreneur at heart since my early teenage years. I started a cookie business to make the money to buy my first nice bike.

The results of that experience?

I liked the bike. I loved the business. I knew I would be back to entrepreneurial ways some day.

You may be an entrepreneur at heart, or you may not. As you explore that, if you are, consider what a few business owners and business builders have to say about the experience:

An entrepreneur tends to bite off a little more than he can chew hoping he'll quickly learn how to chew it.
Roy Ash

I never perfected an invention that I did not think about in terms of
the service it might give others… I find out what the world needs,
then I proceed to invent.
Thomas Edison

The critical ingredient is getting off your butt and doing something. It's as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today. The true entrepreneur is a doer, not a dreamer.
Nolan Bushnell

The important thing is not being afraid to take a chance. Remember, the greatest failure is to not try. Once you find something you love to do, be the best at doing it.
Debbi Fields

Entrepreneurs are risk takers, willing to roll the dice with their money or reputation on the line in support of an idea or enterprise. They willingly assume responsibility for the success or failure of a venture and are answerable for all its facets.
Victor Kiam

Nobody talks about entrepreneurship as survival, but that's exactly what it is and what nurtures creative thinking. Running that first shop taught me business is not financial science; it's about trading: buying and selling.
Anita Roddick

Are you more “for” or “against”?

Perhaps you, too, have been noticing a current controversy between a comedian who went too far (as he admits), and a politician who is doing (as politicians often do) everything she can to create and then aggravate a conflict in order to attract cameras and keep them on her as long as she can.

It all made me think about people who are more "for" and those who are more "against" something.

What are you "for"?

In other words, perhaps there is a major and highly motivating goal that drives you. Or maybe there is a cause you are working for, and trying to engage others in working to achieve. Perhaps there is something you want to create, such as a major artistic work, or a social change.

What are you "against"?

Perhaps there is something you worry about a lot, and work hard to prevent. Or maybe there is something that you work hard to eradicate for future generations.

What do you think about about a lot? What gets you energized, and mobilized?

Some things bring out each person's adrenalin, the fire in their belly, more than other things do.

Are you more energetic and fully alive when thinking about things you want to create, or things you want to prevent?

Would you prefer a different focus to drive your attention, energy, actions?

Is your primary focus now – what you are "for" or what you are "against" – something that you chose, or something you were taught, or inherited?

For example, if you are more "against," what would happen if you found a cause you were "for," instead?

And in the same vein, if you are more "for" something, what if what drove you most was a condition you tried to prevent for others, in the future?

It's just a thought.

It won't change anything between the comedian and the politician, but it made me look at one current controversy in a different way.

What book or movie changed you?

I'm reading The Soloist for a book club I'm in. I'm reading it very rapidly, much faster than usual.

It's a book my husband first heard about, and wanted to read. The story is compelling, and my husband knows the author, Steve Lopez, a columnist for the LA Times. He used to work at the San Jose Mercury News where Gary is a writer and reporter.

I'm flying across the pages because I'm eager to know what happens next in the eye-opening journey the author is clearly traveling.

Steve had no idea how much he would be affected by the street musician whose path he crossed when looking for column ideas. Nathaniel, a very talented musician, left New York's exclusive Juilliard School after a few years due to the onset of mental illness.

Nathaniel is just one of many people living on the streets of LA. The Soloist provides a view into the starkness of life – and death – on the streets, along with his specific story.

Steve wrote about Nathaniel, thinking it was a great story for one day's column. Soon, though, he was spurred on by readers who wanted to donate to help Nathaniel and wondered what happened to him.

Pretty quickly, Steve couldn't not try to help the homeless man find a solution to his illness, homelessness, and find a way to continue to make his music, too.

As a reader, I feel as if I am being changed in some way as I read – and I'm only halfway through.

Which makes me wonder, what's the last book you read, or movie you saw that had changed you?

- Why did it have that effect on you?

- How did it change you? What did you think, feel or do differently, as a result of having experienced that particular book or movie?

- Is there a life experience you've had that, if you shared it, might help to change others for the better, too?

Cookies!


Cookies!, originally uploaded by jcgr.

These are just a few of the 20 dozen beautiful, whimsical cookies a group of friends made and decorated this weekend for a "Drop In & Decorate" party.

We were seven people among many across the US making cookies for various good causes during these first few days of May.

This year, more than 7000 cookies are being baked, decorated and donated to various charitable organizations and agencies across the country.

When one member of our team, high school freshman Alison Knysh, heard that our work was part of a big cookie-baking team across America, she very quietly, slowly and thoughtfully said, as she realized how many people were involved in this effort, and about the many people for whom we were doing this, "Oh…WOW!"

It's a small thing, but it's something we can do to help someone, somewhere, somehow.

There's still time if you'd like to host your own "Drop In & Decorate" party. Check here for more information about how to do that.

The friends who worked together to create cookies for a good cause at our "Drop In & Decorate" event this year include:
Jo-Anne Knysh
Sara Knysh
Alison Knysh
Shayda Khorasani
Aanchal Mohan
Kyle Borch

Find the courage to reach for your stars

In the deep quiet of late Saturday afternoon, I've been trying to bring some words, some ideas, an entire book "home."

No one is making me write the book but me, myself.

I've wanted to write one for years. When our daughter was in high school, I used to say I’d have one written before she finished college. She’s been out, oh, almost two years by now.

So finally, after talking about it for more years than I'd like to recall, I'm finally doing it.

To be fair, though (to myself), I have been quietly chipping away at this idea by meeting various learning goals I set for myself, along with learning through various experiments for five years or more, leading up to this point. I've written first drafts of novels through NaNoWriMo, National Novel Writing Month each of the past five Novembers. I've read many, many books on fiction and non-fiction writing, both. I've written in some way almost every day for about three years, along with everything else going on. I've attended conferences, trade shows. And there's more.

So this goal of writing my first book? It's not exactly a fly-by-night idea I'm trying.

But now, to actually get across the finish line – as is the case for anyone in pursuit of a big goal – it has been essential that I usher the self-critic out the door.

Otherwise? I'll never be able to move into the middle of the project, far down the road from the start/restart cycle that happens if immediate and eternal perfection is the primary goal.

Things can be pretty messy on the way to the top of the mountain, or the journey to reach your own star.

Messy. And at times, quite discouraging, when you turn the corner and instead of a clear road, see nothing but boulders and barriers and no end of peaks and valleys about which you wish you’d known.

But if you had, would you have started, at all? Perhaps, perhaps not. It’s better not to know absolutely everything at the start.

So somewhere down the road, when you have your work rhythm and environment right, it can all become wonderful. On the road.

Long before you reach your goal.

Do you know that feeling, too? That flow of all-engaging work, unfettered, moving you energetically, inexorably toward your goal.

That’s not to say that there aren’t and won’t be more messy parts down the road, discouraging parts beyond the peak of wonderfulness now. But once you’ve experienced that work flow, you want more.

The movement that happens naturally when there's no one barring the door, worried that a comma might go out "wrong"? (There’s time, and there will be a need, for that critic to do her job later, when we get to the polishing part).

There is a natural lightness and a light naturalness that can only get into your work when you get out of your own way, and let the work flow.

The goal-reaching, star-grabbing? That's a bonus.

And with that, it’s back to work here.

We’re running as fast as we can


Haiku 23/52, originally uploaded by jcgr.

Running to catch up?

Running to get ahead?

Running because you want to?

Running because you can?

Whatever your goal, whatever drives you, focused energy will get you there best.

Creative inspiration

We’re still on the uphill climb of change, and will be for a while.

In the midst of the long journey, it can be refreshing to pause and listen to masters of change and creativity. Here are a few of those thoughts from famous artists, inventors, business people, scientists, and more:

When I finished a song that I thought was good, I thought, “I don’t know where that came from, so I have no idea if I can do that again.” I’m talking like, a hundred and fifty songs down the line. I still feel that.
Trevor Rabin

If we did all the things we’re capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.
Thomas Alva Edison

Thinking is easy, acting is difficult, and putting one’s thoughts into action is the most difficult thing in the world.
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

We progress when we think more and better.
Plato

We have enough people who tell it like it is. Now we could use a few people who tell it like it can be.
Robert Orben

The creative process is a process of surrender, not control.
Julia Cameron

If you don’t live it, it won’t come out of your horn.
Charlie Parker

Man must go back to nature for information.
Thomas Paine

It would be impossible to describe everything scientifically, but it would make no sense; it would be without meaning, as if you described a Beethoven symphony as a variation of wave pressure.
Albert Einstein

Flaming enthusiasm, backed by horse sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success.
Dale Carnegie

I dream for a living.
Steven Spielburg

I am among those who think that science has great beauty. A scientist in the laboratory is not only a technician; he is also a child placed before natural phenomena which impress him like a fairy tale.
Marie Curie

What is a courageous move for you?

What, for you, is the very next positive change-making, dream-affirming move you can take, today?

We're not talking about tomorrow, mind you. I'm talking about courage and change TODAY.

Even in the smallest, least threatening way.

The reason I ask? At an especially lively meeting of a especially lively book club yesterday, we wrestled with the subject of change.

And how difficult it is to make.

It doesn't really matter which book we were discussing, though it is one that precipitated some major changes in America more than a century ago. It has me curious about reading other books that precipitated major, positive change (I can see a theme building…if I can talk the book club into it. And if not, well, it's a theme on which I'll read much more myself).

We talked in our lively meeting about how the past can choke and chain us, collectively and individually, to stories and histories from which we cannot seem to break.

For example, some groups bound by history seem to say, "What are, who are we, and what binds us if we do not have the shared struggle to define us?"

Sometimes the only way to change is in extreme, dramatic or elaborate ways. Sometimes the better way to change is in small, non-threatening ways – progress, one bit or bite (byte?) at a time.

Does your company or your group (or perhaps another group, even your family) have an identity that clearly defines you?

- How is that identity positive, enlivening, energizing?

- How is that identity restrictive or confining?

- What would be a better, more positive identity if your company, group, and ultimately the individuals in it can successfully change?

- What are some small and positive steps you can take to help that identity improve and move, in non-threatening ways?

Again I ask:

What is your next courageous move?

Something you can do today?