Independence week

We’re starting the downhill run to 2009, as we begin July tomorrow. That means we are, or soon should be, halfway done with achieving our 2008 goals, whatever they may be.

In the US, it’s what I think of as “Independence Week.”

We celebrate Independence Day each July 4, marking the day in 1776 when the US declared it was free from England. Using that symbolism, in the past few years, I’ve used this week to declare my own independence from a burden, a barrier, a goal I’ve not yet achieved.

How can you use Independence Week:

- To break free from a burden you’ve carried with you for a long time? How can you set it down and walk away, or let it go this week, this time?

- To break through and achieve a long-held goal? If full achievement is not in the picture this week, how can you make the time for one hour’s solid progress toward that goal? (You may find that one great hour leads to two, then three, and soon, momentum takes the lead so you can reach the goal that has eluded you so far).

- To release a belief or attitude that has been in your way, replacing it with a belief that’s much more positive and supportive of yourself?

Find a way this week to declare your own independence from something that has been holding you back.

We can dream


Tropical
Originally uploaded by jcgr.

Many parts of the US are in the middle of wrestling matches with Mother Nature. The Midwest is cleaning up after devasting floods whose effects will last for years.

California is sweltering and sizzling in many places as forest fires and their smoky effects fill the air.

Other places around the country, and the world have their own ongoing struggles with powerful and often unpredictable natural forces.

And so, in the midst of all that, pause for a moment.

Think of tropical things.

When you see this gentle tree, of what tropical places does it make you recall, or dream?

Voting with your feet

I grew up learning to “vote with my feet,” as my mother described it. When a product or service was not good, she responded with action, not words. She took her business somewhere else.

One year she spent a lot of money on an Easter ham. When she opened the package to prepare the holiday meal, instead of the lean, beautiful ham she expected to find, she found…

A mountain of fat.

I don’t know what she served, instead – I can’t recall that meal, itself. But I do remember what action she took next. It became a family legend.

She didn’t stomp her feet, wring her hands, throw a fit or lose it. Instead, she boxed up that mountain of greasy fat and sent it to the company president. And then she got a response – a replacement ham.

Even so, she voted with her feet and moved her business elsewhere.

When service, once great, starts to slip gradually away, I’ll give the service provider, restaurant or store the benefit of the doubt. I may try to let them know how I think they can return to their previously stellar service.

But if the service continues to get careless, to slip away, we move our business somewhere else, to where we can tell they want it.

If you are a service provider of any type (doctor, dentist, retail store clerk or owner, consultant, designer, hairdresser…anything service-related at all) think about the service you’ve been providing lately. Consider:

- Do you like your work (be honest)? If so, it shows. If not, that shows, too. It makes a big difference in the quality of service you provide. If your answer is “no,” what steps can you take to explore alternative jobs, employers or locations? Can you change jobs and move now to something that fits you better, and makes better use of your interests and strengths?

- Do you care about the customers you have now? Again, it shows, whatever your answer is. If you like working with the ones you have, don’t take them for granted. A good customer is precious. If, on the other hand, you’d rather work with different customers, start to make changes so you start to attract the customers to your business, instead, with whom you work with best.

- Do you know what’s most important to your customers about the products and services you sell? Are you sure you know? You might be surprised, if you’re just guessing now. You may find that your customers are not as satisfied, overall, as you expect or hope.

- If you don’t know, ask. It may not be easy, but it’s very valuable information. I repeat: it’s VERY valuable information. It can help you retain, or refine the most important features of the products and services you provide. And that helps you keep the customers you have, and attract more of the customers you want to and can serve best.

Misplaced?


Nature seeking nature
Originally uploaded by jcgr.

Seeking a natural place to grow, to unwind, a vine seems to be trying to find its way to a natural place in spite of the concrete-rich environment in which it finds itself in Santa Monica, CA.

Sometimes learning hurts

There’s an endless stream of new things, technologies and systems to learn, to try.

And at times, in that stream, for me this feeling suddenly hits:

I don’t want to have to take the time it takes to jump through hoops, practice, repeat, attempt, experience, experiment, and repeat…again and again.

Sometimes, I don’t want to learn.

Somtimes, I just want to know, to pour new knowledge or skills into my brain and instincts, whole.

I don’t want to go through the whole learning rigamarole.

Sometimes I just want to know.

(Yes, it’s good for me to feel the “sometimes I’m tired of learning…sometimes I just want to know” feeling because clients can feel that way, too. I know).

Doing without

People in many parts of the world are being forced by disasters to start again, to rebuild.

Floods in the Midwest and fires in California are just two of the natural disasters now. Manmade disasters include the US home mortgage crisis. There are others, of course.

Each of these disasters is a reminder that one could be forced by circumstances to “do without,” in the most extreme sense. And it makes one pause.

- What, if you had to, would you find it hardest to “do without?”

- What would be the first thing you would replace, if you had lost everything and were beginning again from the beginning?

Of course the odds are overwhelmingly high that you’ll never be in that circumstance. But it’s good to pause and think about what you value most.

Now, let’s look at another perspective on letting things go.

- What’s one thing you could “do without” that would improve your life if you let it go?

- What would happen if you started now and just…let…it…go?

Getting out of your own way

Monday thought-provokers:

As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his own way.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

I don’t believe people are looking for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experience of being alive.
- Joseph Campbell

One often meets his destiny on the road he takes to avoid it.
- Oogway in Kung Fu Panda

Discipline is not the enemy of enthusiasm.
- Lean on Me

Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.
- Confucius

Dangerous beauty


Really…the sun
Originally uploaded by jcgr.

A pink sun, brown sky? It’s not right, according to what we expect.

Here, the sun takes on an eerie orange-pink glow surrounded by dark, smoky California skies on a recent afternoon.

So easy it’s scary

“I’m so good at this it’s scary!” our daughter text-messaged about a new job she had recently started.

I laughed, then texted her back, “How so? AND it doesn’t surprise me – at all. I always knew you’d be good in business!”

Anne was enterprising at an early age. She quickly tired of waiting for people to drive by her lemonade stand. Sales weren’t high enough for a product as good as the one she was offering, she thought. And so? She “took her product on the road” by starting (to my surprise) to sell it door to door in our neighborhood.

I don’t remember if her new and improved sales strategy worked. I do remember that she “couldn’t not” at least give it a try.

From her earliest years, she was also a natural people organizer, a sincere and enthusiastic advocate for ideas, causes, and goals she whole-heartedly believed in. And she writes very well, even if not as quickly or easily (yet) as she wants.

Anne doesn’t realize it yet, but all of her most natural skills are vital for many jobs, no matter what the field.

So for her college degree, did she follow her natural instincts?

Not so much.

She chose a major that, despite her interest in the final outcome, put her in class after class where she was surrounded by people for whom science was their natural field of play. In that world, before she got to the classes for her own major, more often than not she felt “wrong” rather than “right.”

And as a result, steeped in that world? She experienced the feeling that almost everyone does if they’re somewhat off their own natural course. It’s the sense of, “You’re really nothing special in OUR world.” I remember that feeling VERY clearly from my first job out of college. One of those “NEVER AGAIN, EVER AGAIN,” experiences, it helped me right my own course, find my own natural path. It hurt, but it helped, in the long-run, yes.

Now Anne’s at the stage where she’s taking all that she learned in college and mixing it well with her natural, undeniable strengths. She’s trying to discover which career path is hers. It’s all a bit of an experiment.

So the great thing that her text message flagged?

The realization that work, if you find the right work for you, CAN be fun.

It may feel like a luxury, especially in an economy such as the one we’re in, to think about work being a source of great pleasure, even joy. But work that you love truly is a blessing.

And the result of your work, in such circumstances? Well, in those circumstances the work you do can be so good, so true that it is a gift to those for whom you do that work. Think of the great teachers you had, great writers whose inspired or entertained you, great chefs who created wonderful works of food for you to enjoy. Think of dedicated medical workers who helped you find your way back to health, if once injured or ill. And, of course, there are so many more.

If your job, your work now is less than perfect for you:

- What can you do to make it less of a burden and more of a blessing?

- How can you bring out more of your strengths?

- If you continually feel more “wrong” than “right,” is it (dare we say it) time for a job change? Yes, even in this economy…you can find your way to your right path, experiment by experiment, day by day, a step at a time.

Surprising results


Does it have…oh, yes, it has speed!
Originally uploaded by jcgr.

Sometimes the results are not what you expect.

In this case, this little milk jug on wheels? (I do not say that disparagingly – I think Smart Cars are cute).

It left our two year-old car in the dust – no question the SmartCar has "zest."

Who would have guessed?