The thrill, the agony

It was a big weekend for high drama sports contests. The San Jose Sharks lost in the fourth overtime of a conference semifinal game against the Dallas Stars (and even for a non-hockey fan, it was an enthralling, inspiring contest to watch as the players fought for their 2008 Stanley Cup dreams for more than five hours).

The NBA playoffs continue (and continue…and continue…I am not an NBA fan, but live in a household full of them). NCAA spring sports seasons are winding down, and championships are being settled. High school teams all around the country are going through their races, paces, and brackets, too, in pursuit of the best of the best bragging rights for the year, and beyond.

In all of these valiant pursuits of victory, there are celebrations and high-fives all around for the winning team. For everyone else, there’s great pride in the pursuit, in having competed well, and plenty of pain in having lost.

Rarely, there is tragedy, as well.

That was the case with the 2008 Kentucky Derby. The first filly in years, Eight Belles, broke both front legs just after a second-place finish, and had to put euthanized right away on the track at Churchill Downs. That’s the loss of a second prominent racehorse in just a few years, coming as soon as it has after Barbaro, the 2006 Kentucky Derby winner, broke his leg so badly. Despite heroic efforts to save him, he was eventually euthanized early in 2007.

Time will tell, but it may eventually turn out to be the case that racehorses are more able to handle the life-and-death risks of the world in which they compete if they are bred with an eye more to a superb blend of strengths, not just for speed.

In all of these thrilling contests – hockey, basketball, horse-racing, and many more, victory is won so often by the competitor or team with the championship blend of strengths, along with the heart – and more than a little luck, too – to see them through the all-involving battle that leads to the top.

Bad day for ice cream sales?


Bad day for ice cream vendors
Originally uploaded by jcgr.

A bad time for ice cream sales?

It’s a good time to rest, as one of two ice cream vendors decided on this day, at this park, at this time. He was taking a relaxed and shady rest, just off-camera, to the right.

The second ice cream vendor with the truck full of inventory, melting to soup in the background? He was frantically running around the neighborhood, seeking jumper cables, perhaps wishing he’d kept up the maintenance on his truck. Either that, or wishing he’d carried a little less inventory on this ride.

A temporary pause in the action?

How can you make the most of that time?

Ask the right questions

Uncertain times loom in many ways these days around the world. In the US, alone, uncertainty will hover for quite a while as national leadership gets sorted out, and the economy gets straightened around.

Individually, there are other reasons for uncertainty, as well. Perhaps you are, or know a new grad. Or maybe you’re making a big move across the country. Other family, career and life changes bring the unknown, as well.

The point?

Uncertainty is a certain condition, a certain path, now and again throughout life.

Learn to travel it well.

Some ways to travel the path work better than others. Here are a few things that can help:

- Have a good Plan B, along with your great Plan A.

- Ask the right questions.

- Find the people who can help you find the right answers. It is your path, but you are not alone.

For example, more than once in life, most everyone I know has found that an original plan or goal didn’t work out. And their second attempt? Sometimes even a third, on the way to their right destination? It worked much better than they ever dreamt.

Our daughter is learning about the vitality of a good Plan B in her first years of sorting-it-all-out jobs coming out of college. The best things I see in the way she’s trying to create and follow a good Plan B, when Plan A threw her a curve?

She’s asking the right questions.

She’s finding people who have experience, and can help her learn about the things she’s considering.

And she’s seeking the true answers. They may not be the answers she wanted to find when she started down this road, they may not be the ones that are right for others. But they are true, and right for her, and she’s paying full attention to what she’s discovering as she works her way down the Plan B path. Amid, and in spite of uncertainty. It will be OK. It will be VERY OK. I can tell it already.

The right answer, for her is not fully obvious yet. But it’s emerging. She’s on the right path of inquiry, discovery and answer uncovering.

If this story sounds familiar to you in some way, remember:

1. Have, or create a good Plan B.

2. Ask the right questions.

3. Find good people who can help.

Then listen and pay attention to the true answers, for you.

Uncertainty looms? Opportunity does, too.